But They Will Judge You…

But They Will Judge You… Let Them

There’s this moment..right before you hit “post” on social media…where your stomach drops a little. Your finger hovers. Your brain fires off a dozen unhelpful thoughts:

“What if people think I’m trying too hard?”

“What if they roll their eyes?”

“What if they judge me?”

Spoiler: they might.

Also spoiler: it truly doesn’t matter.

The Vulnerability of Showing Up Online

When I first started posting more about my life and my work, I felt so vulnerable. It almost felt like standing on a stage naked—just me, my thoughts, and thousands of imaginary critics.

But then something happened.

I noticed that the world didn’t end when I shared a picture, a thought, or a win. No one stormed into my DMs telling me to get offline. The people who didn’t vibe with what I posted simply… kept scrolling. And the people who did appreciate it stuck around.

Confidence didn’t appear magically.

It came from repetition.

From hitting “post” even when my heart raced.

From realizing that fear loses its power the more often you walk straight into it.

Facing Your Fears Makes You Better

There’s a reason exposure works. The more you face the thing that scares you, the smaller it becomes. Posting online went from terrifying → to tolerable → to empowering.

And suddenly, I wasn’t just showing up online—I was showing up in real life too.

From Instagram to Industry Dinners

One of the biggest changes for me over the last few years was simply… going to things.

Aesthetic industry events.

Dinners.

Workshops.

Meet-ups.

I started showing up—to spaces where I knew no one. And I started saying hello to people I’d only ever seen on Instagram. Total strangers… who didn’t feel like strangers because the internet gives us that weird familiarity.

My friend asked me once,

“HOW do you just go talk to these insta-famous injectors?!”

And honestly, I didn’t have an answer at the time. I just shrugged, because the truth is:

I stopped overthinking it.

My 30s have been wonderfully liberating like that.

Having kids will humble you in ways you didn’t ask for. After you’ve been peed on, cried on, ignored, and adored in the same 10 minutes, embarrassment loses its grip. You learn to justshow upbecause life is too short not to.

Confidence Isn’t a Trait—It’s a Skill

People often assume confident people were born that way.

Nope.

Confidence is earned.

Built.

Practiced.

You don’t get confident before you start posting.

You get confidentbyposting.

You don’t get confident before you walk up and talk to someone.

You get confidentbydoing it scared the first few times.

Every time you face your fear, it gets smaller.

Every time you show up, you get stronger.

Every time you choose to be seen, the judgment of others loses its power.

Let Them Judge

At the end of the day, people will judge you no matter what you do.

Post? They judge.

Stay silent? They judge.

Put yourself out there? They judge.

Play small? They judge too.

So you might as well live boldly.

Show up.

Say hi.

Go to the dinner.

Make the post.

Step into the room you’re meant to be in.

Because the people who matter aren’t judging.

They’re cheering.

Or learning from you.

Or waiting for you to say hello.

And the rest?

Let them.